Drama at the Ego Hotel

In today’s blog post I thought I’d write about something important: spiritual maturity. Spiritual maturity is something hard to define, but we all know what it is when we encounter a personal who is spiritually mature. They have a natural sense of grace and empowerment, and are able to avoid many of the silly squabbles and dramas that less mature people in spiritual circles tend to get into. For me, the defining quality of such people is the capacity to assume responsibility for their emotional and psychic projections. This is why such people are largely impervious to “drama”. This is turn is typically related to the relationship a person has to his or her own ego. Finally, this all has much to do with self-love and self-acceptance.

Rather than discuss this idea intellectually, I am going to share with you a story of a big drama I was once involved with. Those who have read my book Discover Your Soul Template will be familiar with it. This is an extract from the book. All names have been changed to protect the silly egos involved!



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The failure to love yourself completely and assume a high level of responsibility for your emotional energy leaves you vulnerable to end­less interpersonal and psychic battles. If you fail to rein in your need for drama, you disempower yourself. Drama depletes your energy, distorts your focus, and takes your attention away from what you want to create. It also robs you of any chance of being fully present. The higher your propensity for drama, the less creative energy you have left to manifest your dreams.

Some time ago, I was involved in a doozy of a drama. The situa­tion involved a certain think-tank and the development of a report for a powerful international organization. As a member of that group, I was invited to participate. The discussion was all electronic, involving emails and other web media. As it turned out, my contribution was minimal, as I was busy at the time, and much of it was beyond my expertise and interests. After several weeks, a final document was prepared.

Many of the contributions had been rambling and the whole dis­cussion was quite disorganized, so one group member, Sean, bravely volunteered for the onerous task of putting all the ideas together into one intelligible document. This huge operation took him a month. When the document was ready, Sean asked for comments from other participants. Feeling guilty that I had not really contributed as much as I should have, I offered to proofread and edit the document. This is where the drama started.

The document I received was rather shoddy, with multiple prob­lems. I felt numerous changes needed to be made. Yet time was running out because we had to submit the report in only a few days. So I went through it with a big red pen (so to speak), and made many recom­mendations for changes. I then sent it into the group leader, Harry, to see what he thought. Harry was aghast. He said that everyone was too busy to go through all my recommendations, so they would just have to leave it.

Here is where my ego checked into the hotel. I was annoyed that my voice had been ignored. Then another group member, Chang, came for­ward and stated that he also thought the document was well below pro­fessional standard. Harry reiterated that other members had looked at it, and hadn’t noticed any real problems. Sean wrote that if Chang and I were not happy with the document, we could have our names removed from it. He then blurted out that in all of his professional career, with multiple publications as a writer and academic, he had never received the kind of criticisms that Chang and I had put forward. He was indig­nant. His ego had checked into the hotel too.

Things were now getting pushy at the hotel check-in desk. Chang marched in and started clanging the bell at the front desk, demanding service. He sent emails and made postings saying that he had published twice as many books and papers as Sean, and that Sean had no right to submit the paper without his consent, nor the right to erase his name from the paper.

I tried to be diplomatic, and posted several times apologizing for any misunderstandings. I got no responses, which again pushed my but­tons. Ignored yet again! Now I was trying to wrestle my ego and stop it from grabbing an axe and running around the hotel foyer.

My part in the drama sprang from a childhood issue. My parents were particularly strict, believing that children should be seen and not heard. My father had little time for love and nurturing. Children were basically tools for fixing stuff around the house and a cheap source of labor for the family business. Anytime I complained or acted up, I was silenced with physical punishment or sent to my bedroom without din­ner or TV. In my father’s defense, sometimes I got water if I was really good.

Chang’s soul issues soon became clear to me. He wrote me an email. Did he start off with an analysis of the situation, or telling me how to resolve the problem? That would have been the rational approach, after all. But no! He got straight into telling me about his childhood and how everyone at school beat him up because he was different.

There it was in black and white. Chang’s investment in the drama sprung from his wounded child. Yet Chang had no intention of accept­ing responsibility for that hurt, and working toward healing and group harmony. No, he wanted attention and sympathy from me, and justice from the group for being wronged.

By that point I had worked on the issue, having completed several sessions of Connecting with the Ego and Wounded Child (these are healing processes described in the book), so I had pulled my emotional energy out. I had taken responsibility. I worked on some deep issues with my father and elder brother, especially some anger and sadness that were lingering within me.

Because I have a commitment to honoring Spirit and a vision to focus upon, I didn’t let Chang pull me back into the drama (which is what he wanted). I checked out of the hotel, which wasn’t easy, as there were bully boys at the door trying to push me back inside. I wrote a polite email to Chang telling him I was sorry for his childhood mis­treatment, but suggesting that we should focus on resolving the issue. Before I sent the email, I checked the intention behind it (by letting my ego speak, and correcting it), and acknowledged anything that was ego-based. The intention that underpins action is very important if you want to resolve dramas, for even as you are saying or doing one thing, energetically you may be doing the opposite.

Sean was eyeball-deep in the muck of drama too, reacting from his soul issues. My sense was that his father had punished him also, and the criticism had generated a fear reaction, followed by anger. Where there is anger, there is fear. Eventually it all died down. The blood was washed from the hotel carpet. In a final irony, I learned that Chang and I had been given the wrong document—an earlier draft, not the final copy.

There was also a broader group dynamic at work. All of us in the drama had been seduced by the ego’s desire for power and attention. We were looking for greater recognition. The paper was our passport to global-level power. It was about face, status, and prestige. Entire cul­tures are built on such ego stuff. However, as soon as you buy into the collective ego narrative, you become a magnet for drama, control and power.

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Entangled Minds: The idea that will change everything?


Title: Entangled Minds: The idea that will change everything?

Author: Marcus T Anthony, Director MindFutures

Publication details: MindFutures, Australia, 21012

This fully-cited and easy to read 8000 word article identifies the illogical and inconsistent thinking in some ‘cutting edge’ thinking about the future, especially in relation to discussions about intuitive insight, consciousness beyond the brain and entanglement in physics. It is argued that ‘psi’ phenomena need to be taken seriously. The article draws upon Deep Futures, which is a domain of Futures Studies which seeks to create more meaningful futures. There is an in-depth analysis of the John Brockman edited book “This Will Change Everything”. The argument will both provoke and delight skeptics and psi proponents alike.

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Marcus T Anthony’s PhD thesis: Integrated Intelligence

ACADEMIC:  This is my doctoral thesis, which I completed in 2006. It examines dominant mainstream theories of mind and intelligence, and contrasts them with alternative Eastern, mystical and indigenous conceptions. In particular the thesis presents the theory of integrated intelligence: that the mind extends beyond the brain, and that individuals can tap into that greater intelligence to live more meaningful lives and develop greater wisdom.

Thesis Title: “Representations of integrated intelligence within classical and contemporary depictions of
intelligence and their educational implications.”

Marcus T Anthony


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Marcus T Anthony thesis
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Integrated Intelligence: The Future of Intelligence?

ACADEMIC ARTICLES: Many classical depictions of intelligence suggest that individual human intelligence is part of a greater transpersonal consciousness. The concept of this integrated intelligence has resurfaced in contemporary times in a number of fields. This paper presents the ideas of four thinkers whose works incorporate integrated intelligence – Broomfield, Dossey, Wilber and Zohar. Inayatullah’s Causal Layered Analysis is used to deconstruct them. The four authors and their texts are compared and contrasted on some of their major themes. Finally, some of the most significant issues associated with integrated intelligence are introduced.

Title: Integrated Intelligence: The Future of Intelligence?
Author: Marcus T Anthony (Director, MindFutures Australia)
Publication details: Journal of Futures Studies, November 2003, 8(2): 39 – 54

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INI Future of Intelligence

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Education For Transformation: Integrated Intelligence in the Knowledge Society and Beyond

ACADEMIC ARTICLES: The purpose of this paper is to introduce several possibilities and potentials regarding the implementation
of integrated intelligence into the modern pubic education system and the knowledge economy which it serves.
There are thus two seminal questions. Firstly, what general uses might integrated intelligence have in the modern
secular public education system? Secondly, what place might integrated intelligence have in the long-term
development of education and society?

Title: Education For Transformation: Integrated Intelligence in the Knowledge Society and Beyond

Author: Marcus T Anthony (Director of MindFutures, Austraia)

Publication details: Journal of Futures Studies, Feb., 2005.

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INI in Knowledge Economy

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A Personal Vision of the Integrated Society


ACADEMIC ARTICLES: In this paper I draw upon theory within critical and postconventional futures studies to develop a vision for some potential applications of advanced cognitive capacities in an idealised society of the future – the integrated city. Specifically I refer to the theory of integrated intelligence (Anthony, 2008). This theory posits that the human mind is embedded within a sea of consciousness, and that contemporary human beings can consciously utilise this consciousness. In this paper I focus upon the future of life and especially work in the modern city in developed Western and Asian localities.

Title: A Personal Vision of the Integrated Society

Author: Marcus T Anthony

Publication details: Journal of Futures Studies, August 2008, 13(1): 87 – 112


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A Personal Vision of the IS

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Integrated Intelligence

BOOKS (ACADEMIC): This book is an exhaustive coverage of a crucial but poorly understood subject  matter. Marcus T. Anthony examines theories of intelligence and consciousness, and the way in which they represent (or exclude) intuitive, spiritual and mystical experience. It will satisfy the more academically rigorous reader.

Marcus T. Anthony’s argument identifies the way narrowly defined ‘rational’ definitions of mind have come to dominate and restrict contemporary discourses in science and education. He develops the theory of integrated intelligence, an expanded model which incorporates the non-rational elements of human intelligence, long missing in mainstream western discourses. Anthony indicates how and why they should be incorporated into modern education systems.

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Words of praise for Integrated Intelligence

Integrated Intelligence is an exceptional book. I am most impressed by the fact that Anthony has forged ahead and got to where the discourse will, if we are lucky, arrive in maybe another decade or more.

DR DAVID LOYE, ex-faculty Princeton University.


This book is a highly ambitious one which succeeds in presenting a well documented, intelligently structured, convincingly developed concept which could well make an original contribution to thought.

DR FELICITY HAYNES, ex-Dean of Education, The University of Western Australia.

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